A good father makes all the difference in a child’s life. He’s a pillar of strength, support, and joy. His work is endless and, sometimes, thankless. But in the end, it shows in the sound, well-adjusted children he raises.
A good father loves his children, but he doesn’t let them get away with everything. He might disapprove of his children’s misdeeds, using tough love to prove a point, but he does so through the power of his words.
10 qualities that every good father has
When we talk about the qualities of a good father, we often do not understand or even consider the level of involvement the father has to have in a child’s life. Just by providing material pleasures, a person cannot become a father. A good father should possess the following 10 qualities.
1. Respect the mother
When the child sees their father misbehave or disrespect their mother, they learn that women should be treated the same way. Whether you are divorced or married with some bumps on the road, nurturing your relationship with your wife as the mother of your child plays a vital role in nurturing caring humans, especially decent boys.
2. Knows how to discipline without violence
Being a good and fun dad does not mean you can never scold your child. Scolding or making your child realize their mistake need not involve belts and sticks. Punishments can be in the form of a strict tone while addressing them or not giving in to their demands.
3. Focus on the future
As a father, you will always feel your ‘baby’ is still too little to face the big bad world but children grow. They become adults and one day, become parents too. You need to understand that you are raising a person who will enter society and will be responsible to uphold the virtues of humanity.
4. Be open-minded
As a father, you need to unlearn many things, and having a narrow mindset is one of them. You need to teach your kids that they can count on you even if their opinions and life choices are not at par with your thoughts.
5. Spend quality time
Being actively involved in a child’s life requires a father to sacrifice some of his quality free time. But, this way you will be able to become the friend and guide your child will require later on in life.
6. Help them think for themselves
As a father, you will have to challenge your children to think for themselves. Think of a caterpillar struggling in the cocoon. Children need to metamorphose into responsible adults and this will be possible only when you let them fall and understand life.
7. Love unconditionally
The ability to just love is also one of the greatest qualities of a good father. Being a father, you should be your child’s biggest supporter and critic. Loving them unconditionally will make them value kindness and love others.
8. Talk to them
Communication often solves everything. As a father, you need to express yourself if you want your children to understand you and talk to you about their issues.
9. Follow a routine
A father should lead by example and hence when you have a routine in life and work diligently and honestly, you teach your children professionalism and its virtues.
10. Show acceptance
You need to understand that your children will not always be a clone of you. They will have their choices and your acceptance will help them lead a better life.
There are few things as valuable as a father who will do everything he can, and provide all the tools he has so that his children can become better than him.