10 Ways to Teach Your Children to Become Confident

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Confidence is a trait that, when instilled, will help a child accomplish, grow, and build themselves. Therefore, teaching children to become confident is very important. Learn the most effective ways to do so.

Your children will not only become happier, but they also have a higher chance of developing their personality earlier than others.

By teaching them to become confident, you are also teaching them how to be independent and rely on themselves.

Healthy confidence is essential as they grow older since many things in society reward confidence. A healthy spirit also helps them learn, explore, and build a healthy self-image.

10 ways to instill confidence in children

1. Be confident in yourself

Confidence is not just learned; it is usually modeled after. Children generally adopt what they see, and if they see you are confident, they are also likely to be convinced themselves.

Demonstrate this by not overreacting, not bursting out, not doubting yourself, and not complaining. You can use simple lines like “I can do it” or “It’s okay, I’ll find a way to do it” to help instill confidence.

2. Avoid becoming upset by mistakes

A key indicator of confidence is picking oneself up when committing a mistake. Therefore, if your child makes a mistake, ensure they understand that they did something wrong and teach them how to do it correctly.

Instead of complaining or being overwhelmed, teach children that mistakes are perfectly normal and that what’s important is being able to deal with them.

Allowing children to diversify and explore also helps them become more confident.
Allowing children to diversify and explore also lets them find their strong suits. (Image: via Josh Sutton)

3. Encourage exploration and curiosity

Encouraging children to explore lets them learn confidence despite not knowing something. Allowing them to diversify and explore also lets them find their strong suits.

By encouraging exploration, you allow a child to go outside of their comfort zone, which is an excellent indication of confidence.

4. Reinforce perseverance

When a child tries and fails but tries again, encourage them and reinforce that behavior. You can tell them how happy or proud you are of them that they are trying despite not getting it right the first time.

When a child becomes comfortable enough to try by themselves, they will display self-confidence. Young children need reinforcement to know when they are doing something right.

5. Help to find their passion

A passion usually starts as a curiosity that turns into a hobby. When your child finds something they like, try to support them.

When a child is passionate about something and learns how to do it well, this usually boosts confidence.

6. Practice goal setting

Goal setting is critical in children. Teaching them delayed gratification can go a long way. When you allow them to work toward something, you make them practice the real-life skill of working toward a goal. 

A simple goal you can practice with your children is to save money to buy a bike. In addition, you can give them chores and reward them with money to help encourage them to work toward a goal.

7. Acknowledge the effort

Although children might not get everything right the first time, make sure to acknowledge the effort they put into what they do. They are still trying to navigate, which is why they should be commended even if they are not perfect.

You also shouldn’t overdo this and commend them appropriately. Instead of saying they achieved something they didn’t, you can recognize their little efforts and encourage them to do more next time.

Although children might not get everything right the first time, make sure to acknowledge the effort they put into what they do. (Image: Monkey Business Images via Dreamstime)

8. Ask for their contribution

When making a minor decision, you can ask them to contribute and explain why they think it is a good idea. To teach this, you’ll have to do the same.

This is also a great way to teach your children to communicate their likes and dislikes. So you are not only teaching them to be confident, but you are also teaching them to be vocal.

9. Don’t expect perfection

Expecting perfection doesn’t always end well. Although some children try harder when the model is desired, this can hurt their confidence.

A healthy balance would encourage them to do better, but would still acknowledge their efforts if they are not the best. It is also essential to teach children about frustration when they do not get things right.

10. Show love

Always communicate with your child lovingly and when you are doing something they might disagree with, remind them that you love them and are doing things for their good.

When a child learns to see your love during difficult moments, they develop a strong sense of confidence.

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  • Mike West

    Mike West is a tech/blockchain enthusiast that keeps an eye wide open to the world. He doesn't cower behind a desk but rides into the sunset in search of a way to better understand the world. Through his written works, he hopes to provide a deep dive into the beauty and intricacies of humanity emerging with a fascinating story to tell.

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