A survey found that 90 percent of parents raising their children will instill anxiety in them! The main reason is that many parents fail to control and manage their emotions. Chronically anxious parents tend to be overly sensitive and irritable and often lose their temper when interacting with their children.
Children constantly exposed to emotional and negatively charged parents will be influenced subtly and eventually become violent and destructive-tempered adults.
Kids who never experience genuine parental love and care will be unable to express themselves openly and seek help when they encounter difficulties throughout life and during their studies, leading to an estranged parent-child relationship.
3 traits to guide parents in raising well-rounded children
1. Families who are rational and know how to control their emotions
Parents, who can manage their feelings and rationally assess any situation will positively demonstrate and pass on these qualities to their children.
There are times when the inability to control emotions can cost you and your loved ones dearly. On the other hand, children who experience positive, rational, and uplifting environments will, in adult life, lead good interpersonal relationships. They will reason instead of letting their feelings guide them when facing a problem.
It is believed that if you act and instill a depressive, pessimistic environment and quality in your children, they, in turn, will demonstrate it back to you; on the other hand, if you offer joy, happiness, laughter, and rationalism, they, in turn, will reflect these traits.
2. A family that loves reading books
Families that love to read books can cultivate a good attitude toward learning in their children.
According to a survey conducted by the Institute of Education Sciences, families whose, parents often read books and newspapers in their spare time have a higher percentage of kids with excellent grades.
I once read an article about an author who went to a friend’s house and saw how his friend’s children loved reading books. He noted the range of books they read, from fairy tales, fiction, and non-fiction stories to various practical manual guidebooks.
Amazed, he asked the parents how they nurtured and cultivated such qualities in their children. To his surprise, he found that the parents led by example. For example, the couple expressed how they usually like to read, and when they have nothing to do, the whole family gathers together to read, and everyone becomes immersed in their respective book.
Children who are read to from birth and constantly witness parents who genuinely love to read books will equally learn and engage in this pastime. Reading will become as routine as eating and breathing.
Children’s first educators are the parents. Since they spend the most time with them, every word and deed of the parents will implicitly engrave a profound mark on their kids.
What about our present, real-life, modern society? Many parents and their children are engaging more seriously with their cell phones and watching television.
Parents are lamenting: “We are running around every day to make a living; how can we have the heart and energy to read books? This will seriously affect the child’s attitude toward learning.
It is not a requirement to read a lot of books. But at least in front of your children, when they are studying, you can be with them; even if you just glance through their textbooks, you are showing them the importance and value of long-term learning.
3. Commitment is a sign of a good relationship between a husband and wife
There is a good saying: ‘The best love a father can have for his child is to love the mother well; the best love a mother can have for her child is to appreciate and esteem the child’s father.’
Children who grow up in such a happy family will not only be optimistic, but also possess an inner love and will express it naturally.
A family with a good relationship between husband and wife can provide the child with security and help establish a healthy parent-child bond.
Parents who are committed to each other become the anchor of a family. They will provide their children with a sense of security, thus raising robust, independent, and intrinsically capable problem-solving future adults.
Honest and open parental discussions will enable their children to communicate well and interact easily with new people. They will naturally respect and care for others and form equally close relationships. Such families will foster a home environment that will always be dependable and nurturing during good and bad times.
It can be said that parents who are not committed to each other and tend to quarrel constantly will raise children who are insecure, quarrelsome, irritable, and difficult to approach.
