Modern society has always created an atmosphere of “beauty is king,” as if people who look beautiful deserve to have all the good things and have others like them. Many people have anxiety about their looks, hoping to improve their external beauty through various means, in order to gain love and friendship.
These 4 things are important if you want others to like you
1. Smile
Dale Carnegie (1888-1955), the famous American master of human relations, said: “Your smile is a messenger of your goodwill. Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people frown, scowl, or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun breaking through the clouds.”
There is a saying on the Internet: “Girls who love to laugh will not have bad luck.” Sometimes, a genuine smile is worth more than words.
People’s emotions can be contagious. Your sincere smile can impress others and make them feel happy too. If you hold your head up, look around, and smile at people, you’re more than halfway to success.
2. Remember other people’s names
Carnegie said: “Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language. If you want to win friends, make it a point to remember them. Remember a name and call it easily and you have paid a subtle and very effective compliment.”
Whether you are dealing with a waiter or a manager, paying attention to their name will have an incredible impact.
All people have the psychology of wanting to be valued by others. Being able to remember the other person’s name is an act that makes the other person feel valued. If you can do this, the person will definitely double your favor.
3. Show interest in others and sincerely pay attention to them
If you’re genuinely interested in people and want to befriend them, then care about them. You’ll make a lot of friends in no time.
The most important thing in communicating with people is sincerity. If you care about others, they can feel it. Many people think that they can’t make friends and no one likes them. That’s because you may pay too much attention to yourself and be indifferent to others and the outside world. So others will naturally not have a good impression of you, much less like you.
4. Talk in terms of the other person’s interests
Carnegie said: “The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it. You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
Talking about the others’ favorite things can arouse their interest in communicating with you, so they can open up and be fully involved in the conversation. This is an example of the phrase: “Birds of a feather flock together.”
As the Chinese saying goes: “For a congenial friend, a thousand toasts are too few; in a disagreeable conversation, one word more is too many.” When you meet someone who has an interest in common with you, you can often accept this person quickly. But when you meet someone who has different interests, even half a sentence is enough.
Talking about the other person’s concerns and interests is essential to increase their desire to talk. Over time, it will make the relationship closer and people will have a better impression of you.
Therefore, if you want others to like you, you can try to start from the above 4 points, and show your charisma. You will eventually win others’ fondness.
Translated by Patty Zhang
