Parents always think about what to leave their children when they get old. Of course, each family situation is different, but there are three things that parents must leave their children, whether rich or poor. This is parental care, but also parental foresight.
What kind of legacies will you pass on to your children?
Do you know the three legacies parents must leave their children according to traditional culture? Whether it is a thrifty family, being kind, or family harmony, these are essential foundations to help your children reach their goals and dreams. Read on to find out more about how you can create a legacy for your children.
1. Thrifty family: The best wealth
A family’s wealth is raised from its members’ diligence and frugality. Su Shi said: “Frugality is also the way to cherish blessings and prolong life.” Diligence can be open source, frugal can cut down on the flow, and a diligent and frugal family is the only way to ensure the blessing will last a long period of time.
If a family is only diligent, but not frugal, it is like a bowl without a bottom and more than enough to fill the bowl. But on the other hand, if a family is only frugal, but not diligent, it is like sitting on a mountain, and careful calculation is not long-term.
No matter how wealthy the family is, parents should teach their children to be frugal. Whether it’s a drop of water, a grain of rice, a piece of paper, or a portion of electricity, stick with it as long as you can. Certain money must be spent, and the money that can be saved must be saved. Several generations of hard work saving money cannot be wasted by the family.
2. Being kind: The best blessing
Dong Zhongshu of the Han Dynasty said: “Benevolent people of longevity, no greed outside and quiet inside, the heart is calm and does not lose its integrity.” Good people always live long because they are quiet, calm inside, neutral, and peaceful.
The Wu Yue Qian family is “a thousand-year famous family, the first family in two Zhejiang provinces.” The family has produced five scholars, more than 100 people who have been crowned as prime ministers, and countless scholars.
Only with a kind family spirit can you cultivate the pillars of the country dedicated to public service. When you live in the world, you should always do good deeds with good thoughts in mind. Not to please others, but to be good to yourself. Be a kind person who is down-to-earth; be a generous person who has peace of mind.
To teach your children to be kind is to plant a wide field of blessings. When you do good to others, you also pave the way for your future.
3. Family harmony: The best family style
The Book of Rites says: “A father and son are sincere, a brother and a wife are harmonious, and the family is fat.” This is because father and son are sincere and generous, brothers get along well with each other, and the family can prosper and develop.
A family living behind closed doors should be twisted into a rope. They should help each other, support each other, think in one place, and make efforts in one place. They should face difficulties together and solve problems together. As long as the family and family style is right, sooner or later the family will prosper.
Family harmony is the key to a successful family. Parents should teach their children to be respectful and considerate of each other. They should also teach them to understand and tolerate each other’s differences.
Parents should also encourage their children to communicate openly and honestly with each other. This will help them to build strong relationships with each other and create a harmonious family atmosphere.
Family harmony also means parents should support their children’s dreams and aspirations. They should encourage their children to pursue their goals and objectives, and provide them with the necessary resources. Parents should also be there to provide guidance and support when their children face challenges and difficulties.
A harmonious family is filled with love, understanding, and respect. Parents should strive to create an environment where children feel safe and secure. They should also be there to listen to their children and provide them with the necessary support and guidance.
Translated by Eva
